Get Better Results When You Take An Active Role in Your Healing Process

Many people who seek alternative healing approach it with the attitude that it is the "healer's" responsibility to heal them — they think all they have to do is show up and let the healer do all the work. Some healers can have a profound effect on your health. However, the healing will probably not last if you return home and resort to your old patterns. After a healer clears and balances your energy, it is essential to create new ways of living your life so you don't continue to develop health problems.

I tell my clients they will probably need to do homework to assist them with the changes they want. The homework may be affirmations to read every day, sacred music to listen to daily, journaling, using essential oils, incense, and crystals. Committing to taking action that will strengthen your healing and well-being is vital.

It is clear to me when clients are not doing their homework. On their subsequent visits they frequently show up agitated and triggered, anxious to explain why their life isn't working. The clients who faithfully do their homework usually show up centered in their hearts, ready and willing to receive and participate in their healing. Their lives continue to improve.

Unrealistic Healing Expectations

Some healing clients think that one session can remove a lifetime of problems. While it is true that one can experience an instantaneous healing miracle, most often, it takes several healing sessions..

When my doctor found a tumor right before the 4th exploratory surgery for endometriosis, he was the one who announced it was a miracle when he opened me up, and the tumor was gone. He was not aware that when he had me sign extra forms to permit him to remove the tumor, right before I was rolled into the surgical room, I spontaneously said to myself, "I am done." I had been struggling with endometriosis since I had an abortion in my '20s. Although this seemed like an instantaneous miracle, I had been processing this trauma for years. In that moment of "I Am Done," all the trauma was released, the tumor disappeared, and I never had another problem with endometriosis.

Clearly, having the multiple sclerosis removed from my mind and body was a huge miracle, especially since there is no Western medicine cure for it. However, it took 14 years of personal work and trying numerous alternative healing modalities. Even then, it still took six sessions of working with a shaman to finally completely remove it. Was I upset because it took so long? No! It was such a debilitating disease that I just wanted it gone, no matter how long or how much money it would take to accomplish.

The bottom line is that miracles happen in different ways and at various times. It is ultimately about trusting the process.

Dealing with some current health issues

If you have read my book, you know I like to teach by example. Recently, I have experienced some health challenges. I will walk you through what I have done to understand the lessons this is bringing me so I can heal and not bring it back into my life again.

In a recent blog, I shared that my Spirit Guides directed me to have hip replacement surgery no later than this fall. Although I was having some pain in my hip, it was manageable—having surgery was not on my radar. However, it was such a strong, clear, specific, and unexpected message that I knew I needed to honor it. I felt some of my healing clients were surprised I decided to have the surgery and were confused as to why I did not personally "heal" the hip problem. 

Health challenges bring life lessons. Identifying and dealing with these lessons is essential to the healing process. Although I will always first try alternative healing, I remain open to Western medicine if it seems that is the best option.  Did I want to have hip surgery? No! But, the Spirit Guide messages were so adamant; they even continued to give me proof that what they were predicting was accurate. 

A few months later, I saw in the news that the Dali Lama had knee replacement surgery. He is one of the most spiritual beings on the planet and has the resources to perform and receive all types of healing.  I don't believe the fact that he chose to have surgery on his knee affected his image as a highly spiritual being. 

I healed well after the hip replacement surgery. However, after 6 months, I recently started having pain if I slept on that side. Then, a few weeks later, I started having sharp pain in the groin area on my right side. The X-rays after the surgery showed my right hip was fine. I felt the best thing I could do was to see an orthopedic specialist and have some new X-rays. Nothing significant showed up, but I have had some cartilage deterioration on the right hip. The doctor suggested a month of physical therapy, 

After a week of no visible improvement with the physical therapy, I put on my "healer" hat.

• I  came home and journaled to see what was underneath my current health challenge.

• I was surprised the lesson was about me pulling this in so that I have an excuse to slow down and not work so much.  I have had this lesson before and have made progress, but clearly there are still issues that I have to resolve.

• This is how healing works. As you heal, you continue peeling off the layers that you are ready to discard. I have already let go of much of my "need to work energy," and Spirit is asking me to let go of more.

• Once I was clear of the lesson, I made a new affirmation list. I read the affirmations several times each day.

• I am listening to more sacred healing music.

• I am meditating and journaling more often.

• I am taking more responsibility for the physical therapy work, using my intuitive healing abilities to let me know if there is other work I need to be doing for this problem.

• I realized last night that I need to get myself on my healing table and give myself a session.

I wrote new affirmations based on my realization of the real lesson for this health challenge.  I am sharing my list to give you an idea of how to write affirmations for a specific issue. This lesson is about honoring what I want to do and not feeling guilty or pushing myself to do things I don't desire. In essence,  I have to get better at saying "no" if I want these health challenges to go away. 

New Affirmations for Chloe — Friday, Dec. 6, 2024

🙏🏻 It is okay to just "be" 

🙏🏻 Self-care is not a selfish act.

🙏🏻 When I feel off, it is usually a message from Spirit to slow down, take time for myself, and figure out what I truly need.

🙏🏻 Taking breaks is healthy.

🙏🏻 I  don't need to make my body unwell to give myself permission to take breaks from working.

🙏🏻 I don't need to make my body unwell to give myself permission not to work.

🙏🏻 I  am enough, even when I don't accomplish anything.

My ultimate goal is to teach people how to heal themselves. We all have an innate sense and ability to heal.  

Please let me know if you are interested in an online course on how to heal yourself. I received a nudge from my Spirit Guides that I should create one.  

Peace, Love, and Light,

Chloe

Staying Grounded and Centered During Challenging Times

With everything happening in the world right now, you may need to add more coping strategies.  The goal is to stay mindfully in the present moment so that your mind doesn’t get stuck ruminating about negative situations.  Even though things are quickly changing, you still have the choice of where you put your thoughts and energy. 

If you are feeling overwhelmed, staying in the present moment is essential.  Someone recently asked me what to do when your present moment sucks. You create a shift to a new present moment.  

First, acknowledge your feelings. Then, take three deep breaths, inhaling peace, calm, and serenity — exhale and release all troubling thoughts. You can continue with this breathing exercise or do a simple activity like washing the dishes. Only focus on washing the dishes, nothing else. That becomes your new ‘present moment.’

The day after the  U.S. election, I did the breathing exercise, which helped. However, I caught myself slipping into thinking about the future and everything he said he would do. I knew I didn’t want to go down that slippery slope, so instead, I swept and mopped my entire house. I felt calm and peaceful during the activity and have remained in that centered and grounded space.

Spend time in nature. I take my dog on a long walk whenever I feel off balance. I concentrate on taking deep breaths while I walk.  I clear my mind and focus on what I am seeing, hearing, smelling. As I walk, I hold the space to receive any messages the Divine has for me. 

Clear the negative energy. Light sage or use a shaker to clear yourself and your space of any negativity. Visualize releasing anything that is not for your highest good. Light candles, burn incense, play sacred music, and move your body.  Breathe in calming, clearing energy, and exhale everything you want to release.

Acknowledge your feelings. If you skip this step and don’t allow yourself to process everything fully, those feelings can surface in unhealthy ways, like acting out with others, getting sick, or having mental and emotional struggles.  Journaling or talking with someone is an excellent way to understand your feelings better so that you can release them.  Welcome your tears. Crying is a powerful way to release what you no longer want.

Trust Spirit. When things look and feel dark, you can get stuck in despair. We are limited in our ability to see the future. Don’t make assumptions based on fear. It can be challenging to see beyond what is happening. Spirit knows things that you don’t.

Surround yourself with nurturing things that bring you peace and comfort. I amp up my regular spiritual practice — listening to more sacred music, lighting candles and incense more frequently, praying and meditating more often, and ensuring I always have some crystals for protection and healing on my body and near my bed.  What I put inside my body is also essential. I make healthy choices in what I eat and drink, including some of my favorite comfort foods. 

Take better care of your body during stressful times. LOVE your body and yourself.  Exercise, dance, sing, eat healthy, take nutritional supplements that help with stress, get a massage, have a healing, meditate, and create a healthy sleep environment.

Pay attention to how you spend your time. Make healthy choices. Read a book, listen to an uplifting podcast, play your favorite music, and connect with people who make you feel nurtured, calm, and loved.  Avoid unhealthy choices, especially anything that can negatively affect your mood. If you feel drained after spending time with certain people, limiting your time with them is okay. 

Stop watching the news - Instead, fill yourself with positive, uplifting information. If that feels too difficult, at least limit your exposure to the news.

The power of affirmations — they work! Spend some time meditating about areas you need to work on. Write affirmations for yourself and commit to starting every day by reading them. During the day, when you feel unbalanced or stressed, reread them. You may also want to reread them when you go to bed. 

Gratitude. Every day, preferably at bedtime, write a short gratitude list. It is essential to remind ourselves that even in the darkest times, good things are still happening in our lives. It could be something simple like “I am grateful for the hummingbirds that come drink from my feeder.”  Or maybe you are grateful to your friend who shared their wisdom.  Reminding yourself of the goodness in your life helps to keep you grounded and centered rather than feeling stuck in the darkness.  Here is one of mine: “I am filled with gratitude that I get to share my wisdom, hope, inspiration, and healing with others.”

Bring more laughter into your life. Watch a comedy. Laugh with your friends. Find the lightness and cleansing that laughter brings. 

Find joy. You may need to meditate and journal what truly brings you joy. Keep the list handy to bring more happiness to yourself and others. 

Spend time with animals. Unconditional love is so important, and they know how to give it to you. If you don’t have a pet, consider getting one, or hang out with one of your friend's pets.

Identify your tribe. Having at least one person who completely “groks” you is so valuable. To be seen, heard, and understood is one of the best gifts you can give someone. Find your peeps, and create a space for a loving exchange of energy with each other.

Create a Spiritual Support Group — find people on a similar path and commit to regularly meeting with each other.. One of my healing clients in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico, is organizing a group. She has requested that everyone who participates has at least read my book — even better if you have had a healing with me. If you are interested in her group, message me, and I will pass it on to her.  

For those having difficulty finding your peeps in your area, consider organizing a ZOOM support group to broaden your outreach. If anyone wants to create a ZOOM group, I will forward any messages I receive from people who wish to participate.

Catch yourself and make healthy corrections. Watch what you say and tell yourself. For example, if you think, “I can’t get over these overwhelmed feelings.”  Stop and say, “I am sorry. I didn’t mean to say that. Let me rephrase it.”  You could replace it with “I love myself. I release and let go of any overwhelmed feelings I have.”  If you have difficulty believing your affirmations, you can journal, or talk with someone to look more deeply at what is behind you holding on to unhealthy thoughts and behavoirs.. 

Try to find the commonality we all share. Instead of focusing on the differences, see what you have in common with those “on the other side.”  It is not helpful to hold an “us against them” mindset.   

Hearing, seeing, and acknowledging another person is a powerful gift. Imagine if you were trying to discuss global warming with a nonbeliever. What if first you asked them why they have certain beliefs about global warming? Then, instead of arguing, repeat what they said to show them you heard it correctly. Gaze into their eyes, sending loving-kindness to their heart. Please take a few deep breaths and share your global warming beliefs with them. If we can avoid the “I’m right, you are wrong” energy, it will enhance our communication with others.

The Buddhist Loving Kindness meditation blessing can help you with this practice. There are many versions of the Loving Kindness meditation. You can use one below or customize your own.

Sit with your eyes closed. Take some deep breaths. Clear your mind.

First, you begin with yourself:

“May I be happy.”

“May I be safe.”

“May I be healthy, peaceful, and strong.”

“May I give and receive appreciation today.”

Now repeat the blessing for all sentient beings:

“May you be happy.”

“May you be safe.”

“May you be healthy, peaceful, and strong.”

“May you give and receive appreciation today.”

—VeryWellMind.com,

“How to Practice Loving Kindness Meditation”

Another examples of the Loving Kindness blessing:

“May I be filled with loving-kindness.”

“May I be well in body and mind.”

“May I be at ease and happy.”

“May you be filled with loving-kindness.”

“May you be well in body and mind.”

“May you be at ease and happy.”

—JackKornfield.com

Meditation on Loving Kindness”

Think about it for a second. If your ‘enemies" have plenty of loving-kindness, safety, wellness, and happiness, they have a better chance of having a more open and compassionate mind. Who knows, they may even think about awakening and enlightenment. We don’t always know how we affect others. At the very least, you showed them how to be empathic, kind, and compassionate, even when you disagree.

You will also witness changes in your own life. When you come from a place of loving-kindness, it fills your life with more compassion and empathy. When you are in that space, it is easier for others to hear and accept what you are saying.

Based on my spiritual experiences and information from my Spirit Guides, the key to lasting change is people waking up to their spiritual purpose. We are out of balance with our world. Many things happening right now are trying to get our attention, wake us up, and get us to think and act differently.

If you would like help with being more grounded and centered, healing things out of balance, or finding your Divine purpose and moving forward on your spiritual journey, contact me.

I would love to hear about some of the tools you use for staying grounded and centered.

Peace & Blessings,

Chloe

Visions of a Seer

For years, I denied my visions, insisting they were random or coincidental. Because most of them occurred during my dreams, it was easy to assume it was merely an exciting or surprising dream. Then the visions started happening while I was completely awake and individuals began identifying me as a Seer. 

When Eduardo Morales, the shamanic curandero I have worked with in Mexico, also called me a Seer, I decided to learn more. The dictionary describes a Seer as “one that sees; one that predicts events or developments; a person credited with extraordinary moral and spiritual insight.” Some describe Seers as “higher level psychics with the expanded and more evolved power of premonitions.” Seers may also be called oracles or visionaries. 

If you could discover what is coming in the future, would you desire to know? Some individuals hold the viewpoint that if your visions of the future are not entirely optimistic and upbeat, it is not advisable to disclose them, as it may generate unfavorable energy. I feel a responsibility to share the information. My visions are a gift from the Divine. I don’t request them—they simply appear.

As someone who has faith in the Divine as the messenger, I don’t perceive that receiving or sharing these visions with others generates negative energy. I see them as a gift from the Divine, with the intention I will use them to guide and prepare myself and others.

In my recent musing, “Silence Brings Clarity and Predictions for the Future,” I mentioned my visions have shown me that things will become much worse in our world by late fall. Many had the impression that I was talking about the November 4 election in the United States and assumed that if their candidate wins, everything will be fine. Sorry, the US elections are only one aspect of what might lead to significant upheaval. Worldwide problems, conflicts, and disasters will intensify. 

Hurricane Helene is a perfect recent example. As many continue to deny that Climate Change exists, we see Asheville, NC, and surrounding areas devastated by the storm. With an altitude of more than 2,000 feet and at least 300 miles from a coastline, this is not a place where one would expect a hurricane to have the ability to destroy it. 

This Asheville disaster hit me hard. I lived in Asheville for 12 years; my son still lives there. When I realized it was not a typical storm and could not contact my son, it was challenging to stay grounded and centered. I had to force myself to stop looking at the Asheville news and leave my house to be around some different energy. Fortunately, my favorite holiday was happening in San Miguel de Allende, Mexico. I sat and watched a beautiful parade filled with amazing dancers, costumes, drumming, other percussion instruments, and lots of copal. Inhaling this wonderful experience, I experienced a greater sense of tranquility and focus. During the parade I received a Spirit Guide message, which served as a reminder that when my son truly needs me, he connects with my soul. 

The most extraordinary time this happened was when I was staying at a cabin my son knew nothing about. Around 3 am, I woke up, startled to see my son’s soul body standing in the bedroom doorway. I took a few moments to make sure I was fully awake and not dreaming. 

I asked him, “What are you doing here?”

He replied, “The Big One told me to come here.”

Understanding his words as alluding to a higher power, I found solace in the belief that he was being led by the Divine. With this idea, I went back to sleep, trusting that he was in excellent hands.

Since I had no cell service at the cabin, I went home early the following day. At precisely the same time my son’s soul body appeared at the cabin, he had called my house and left a voice message, telling me the house where he was staying had been robbed, and asking if I would help him move to Asheville.

When I got home from the parade on Saturday, there was a message from my nephew that he had reached my son. The message arrived at the same time I had the realization at the parade that my son would find a way to contact me. 

As these disasters and upheavals continue, staying calm, grounded, and centered can be challenging. I have faith that is one of the key reasons Spirit is bestowing me with the visions. You may not know the details of everything that is coming, but you can prepare yourself. My best suggestion for preparing yourself is to strengthen your spiritual life. Embracing spiritual practices can provide a sense of reassurance and guidance in these unsettling times.  

Get Your Toolbox Ready

• Create a list of things that bring you comfort and keep you grounded and calm, and make sure you have easy access to them. 

• Find and listen to sacred music that lifts and inspires you.

• Experiment with percussion instruments to find which speaks to your soul. I have a shaker that I use to clear energy. 

• Meditate. If you find it difficult, try some guided meditation. 

• Journaling is a great way to explore your thoughts and feelings. Acknowledge what you are experiencing and then release it.

• Pray every day. And when you are overwhelmed, pray throughout the day.

• Breathe deeply and mindfully.

• Eat well.

• Consider adding some natural supplements that help with stress.

• Get some crystals that offer protection. I wear jewelry with protective crystals because I want them to touch my body. At night, I remove my bracelets and put them on my bed to protect myself while I sleep. Here are some crystals that offer special protection:

  • Amethyst - protection, stress relief, clarity

  • Black Jade - protection from negative people and situations

  • Black Obisidan - removes negativity

  • Black Tourmaline - absorbs negative energy

  • Clear Quartz - helps to balance your emotions

  • Green Jade - helps release negative energy; enables you to stay grounded and calm

  • Hematite - shields you against negative energy

  • Malachite - absorbs negative emotional energy

  • Onyx - helps shield from negative energies and eliminates fears

  • Pyrite - provides a shield to protect you from negative influences and energies

  • Rhodonite - assists with emotional healing

  • Rose Quartz - attracts positivity, shields you from negativity

  • Selenite - good for bringing peace, clarity, and a calm state

  • Smoky Quartz - protects you from negative energy

  • Tigers’s Eye - protects your well-being 

  • Turquoise - enhances your empowerment and inner strength

• Find your peeps now. It is essential to have at least a few people, or even just one person, who is on a similar path. The support you can provide for one another is incredibly strong. It is important to have support during troubling times.

I would love to hear how you are preparing for unsettling times. Or, share with us what tools you use to cope when you are having a difficult time. Opening up about your methods for managing stress can not only be helpful to others, but also cultivate a sense of connection and support during these challenging times.

Remember, even amid uncertainty, there is always hope. Let’s stay hopeful and positive as we navigate these unsettling times.

Peace, Blessings, Love, and Light.

Chloe